Till about a few decades ago, match–making in traditional Goan Weddings was done by a middle-man known as ‘Mali'or ‘Raibari'.With modernization creeping in Goa's society, the practice has lost its relevance and the families directly meet each other to discuss the details of the wedding. Thereafter the engagement, “chuddo” and roas ceremonies are held prior to the wedding. ‘Bicareanchem Jevonn', a traditional lunch held to commemorate the departed souls of the family is held just before the wedding celebrations begin.
During this lunch, ‘Samarachi koddi' a spicy aromatic dry prawn curry cooked with unripe salted mango (mango sol) is served to the guests. Delicacies that you would find in a traditional goan wedding include ‘voddes' made of rice and urad dal ‘Soji' , a sweet made of wheat and sugar cooked in coconut juice and ‘ vonn' made of gram dal, coconut juice, jaggery is also served. After this lunch, both the bride and groom proceed to the church where the nuptials are held and the priest pronounces them man and wife. The couple then returns to the groom's house where the groom's mother puts a gold chain around her neck and places a ‘saddo' on her shoulder. Prayers are recited and sung at this juncture and thereafter the entire family proceeds to the reception venue.
In a traditional Goan wedding you can find a lot of seafood like prawns, lobsters, crabs, mutton, beef, chicken and hard drinks flowing like water. You can expect a lot of drinking and dancing and some rocking music to complement it. Nearly all Goan weddings have a live band playing music according to the preferences of the guests
At the reception venue, the wedding cake is cut amidst a lot of dancing and merrymaking. Food and drinks are served at this juncture and a toast is raised for the happiness and prosperity of the married couple. A traditional goan wedding concludes with the drawing of a line called as ‘xim' where people from the bride and groom's family assemble on each side of the line. After that a few prayers are offered and the ceremony concludes with a few relatives of the bride's family crossing the ‘xim'.